Friday, March 29, 2013

Wedding Registry Tips


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Registering for your bridal shower and wedding gifts is a fun, yet unique, situation.  For most couples, this is probably the first time that all your friends and family want to buy you a gift – and you get to tell them what you’d like.  Before you grab the scanners and get started, here are a few tips for you.
What do you really need and want?  While it may be tempting to scan with reckless abandon, are you really the type of couple that needs a crystal punch bowl, ice cream machine or chef grade knife set.  Think about items that you will really use and scan those.
What do you already have?  If you already have more towels than the average hotel, you can probably skip those on the registry.  This is your chance to upgrade items you started with and fill in the items you don’t.
Scan together.  The wedding registry is not just about the bride!  This is a great task to do together and add items you both want.  A barbeque set, beer steins, lawn gear and other more manly items are perfect for the groom’s registry too.
Choose multiple price points.  Having a range of prices gives your guests options.  Make sure you have items under $50 and $100.  It’s okay to have larger ticket items too, sometimes work friends like to pool money and purchase one large gift.
Automate your registry.  It can be quite helpful to receive updates on what has been purchased.  If the registry begins to run low, you can add more items as needed.
Choose online retailers.  Guests that are out of town, may still want to send you a gift so having an online option can work to your benefit.
Prefer cash?  While you should never directly ask guest to give a cash gift, family and friends can discreetly share that the gift of money can help the couple in setting up their new household.
Where to register?  Most couples register at the big chain stores, such as Target, Bed Bath & Beyond, Macy’s or Crate & Barrel.  If you have a hobby you both enjoy sports equipment stores, wine shops, home improvement chains or other specialty stores may also be appropriate.
When to register?  Most attendees of the bridal shower will refer to the wedding registry when selecting a gift.  It is a good idea to finish your registry prior to mailing the shower invitations.
Sharing the registry.  Wedding etiquette dictates that the couple should not directly inform guests of the registry.  Your shower host or maid of honor can let people know where you are registered.  It is common to include registry cards with your shower invitation, but not with your wedding invitation.
Keep paperwork.  Keep all of your registry paperwork and any gift receipts organized in case an item is damaged or an exchange is necessary.
Be thankful.  As with gifts from your wedding, gifts received at your wedding shower need to be acknowledged.  Hand written thank you cards should be sent soon after receiving the gift.

Wednesday, March 27, 2013

7 Ways To Personalize Your Wedding


Adding elements with a personal touch can make your wedding day a truly personal event.  Today we have seven ideas on how to personalize your wedding day.
Write your own vows or wedding messages to each other.  Writing your own vows or sentiments of love does not have to be a difficult task.  Here are a few questions to answer that can help you start the theme of your vows.
  • When was the moment you knew you were in love?
  • What are your hopes for the future?
  • What promises will you make and keep?
  • What funny or personal vow could you make (I won’t complain when you watch football/The Bachelor, I won’t leave the toothpaste uncapped)?

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Kids make everything cuter.  The question to include children at your wedding reception is one every bride and groom face.  No one can comment when those children are part of your bridal party.  Up the cuteness factor on your wedding day by having many flower girls instead of just one.
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Give your guest something to remember.  Guest favors are a great way to personalize your wedding day.  Whether it’s a trip to a candy bar of your favorites, your favorite music on CD, or bottles of your homemade jam, don’t overlook guest favors as a way to put your personalities into your wedding day.
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Add a pop of color.  While most brides will wear white on their wedding day, you still have plenty of opportunities to inject your favorite colors.  Your wedding shoes and bouquet may be the most obvious choices, but consider adding a colored sash for your wedding reception, colored jewels or hair accessories to add your signature color to your own look.
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Music sets the mood.  Work with your wedding DJ to create a playlist of your favorite music.  This works extremely well during the cocktail hour and dinner.  There are no rules that say you must play soft jazz during cocktail or dinner.  Treat your guests to your favorite acoustic sets, 90s tracks or your favorite love songs.
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There is no such thing as standard wedding photography.  Sure you’ll want to capture traditional family formals on your wedding day, but the possibilities for your wedding day photography are endless.  Share your ideas with your wedding photographer to capture images that are perfectly you.  Creating Pinterest boards of inspiration that you can share with your photographer are a great way to get the dialog started, but it’s important to remember not all the shots you love came from one wedding.  Work with your photographer to identify what ones your timeline and environment allow for your wedding day.
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Capture video messages.  A great way to create a personal record of your wedding day is to capture video messages to each other on your wedding day.  Your wedding videographer can also record messages from your guests on your wedding day.

Monday, March 25, 2013

11 Wedding Budget Savers


Every bride and groom is looking for some simple ways to save money on the wedding day.  We’ve compiled 11 quick tips to get you started:
1.  Prioritize.  Before you begin spending on your wedding, decide which elements are most important to you.  This will help you to place more wedding dollars on the things that you think will most impact the success of your wedding day.
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2.  There is no such thing as “perfect”.  Being realistic about your expectations will help you create the wedding day you want instead of chasing the dream of the perfect wedding day.  Decide what kind of wedding you want – a great party, a family gathering, a formal event – and then plan your wedding day around that idea.
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3.  Seasonal Savings.  If your heart is not set on a summer wedding, choosing a late fall, winter or early spring date can be a budget saver as many wedding vendors will offer better pricing or extra services during their slow season.  When you choose your wedding date, it is important to factor the costs of flowers and food items into the budget to make sure the off season date doesn’t end up costing more than expected.
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4.  Choose In Season Items.  Whether it is flowers or fruits, choosing in season options will always be best for your budget.  If you like the look of a flower, ask your florist if there is an alternative flower in season with similar texture or color. (For more flower ideas, click here.)
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5.  Beware of the “wedding” term.  Adding the word wedding to an item can increase the cost automatically.  Simple items such as hair pieces, wedding shoes and other detail items can be purchased at regular chain or craft supply stores.
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6.  Invitation Options.  When selecting invitations, consider the real cost.  Oversized invitations will require additional postage.  If you don’t need to add a chapel card, consider eliminating that piece.  RSVPs on standard sized postcards require less postage that those mailed in envelopes.  Engraved invitations cost approximately 50% more than thermographed invitations and are neat a significant visual difference.
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7.  Ceremony Venues.  The most budget friendly venues for your ceremony may be your reception hall.  While you may pay a fee for your ceremony on site, you can likely eliminate transportation costs, travel fees from vendors for multiple locations and site rental fees.  If your venue is not an option, consider local parks and beaches that typically have affordable options.
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8.  Bundle and save.  Whenever possible, bundle multiple services with one vendor.  This will allow you to have a single point of contact, typically offer savings with multiple services and may result in extra offerings to you.
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9.  Hire a DJ.  Live bands typically cost several thousand dollars for their services, plus meals and entertainment during their breaks.  A single DJ can provide you the customized playlists you want and doesn’t take breaks.
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10.  Be mindful of hidden costs.  Gratuities, taxes, set-up and rental fees can add up quickly.  Make sure that you are factoring in all those costs when you consider a service or vendor.  (For more on hidden fees, click here.)

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11.  Only buy what you need.  A great way to control your wedding budget is to only buy what you must.  If you won’t really use a wedding day clutch, don’t buy one.  This holds true with vases, cake stands and other decor items as well.  Whenever possible, rent or purchase slightly used items.

Monday, March 18, 2013

Wedding Flower Planning

0782_101912_BrownFlowers are a big part (read budget item) to your wedding day.  The options are endless from color, scent, texture and design.  It’s no wonder that many brides spend countless hours researching, creating Pinterest boards and planning for their wedding day flowers.  We have gathered some of our best wedding flower information here for you.

Bouquet Options.  
While there are several options for your wedding bouquet some of the most common are listed below.
Cascade.  A cascade bouquet will have an elegant look with its free form shape that gently slopes downward into a cascade of trailing blooms.
Hand Tied.  Perfect for a rustic or casual wedding theme, hand tied flowers are loosely gathered together.  Hand tied bouquets are often comprised of seasonal or wild flowers.
Nosegay.  This bouquet is a ball of hand tied blooms.  Simple, yet elegant, they often feature a single color or bloom and range from six to sixteen inches in diameter.
Pageant.  These bouquet of long stemmed flowers, such as roses, lilies or sunflowers, are cradled in the arms of the bride and her bridesmaids.

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Budget
The average wedding flower budget can easily exceed $3,500!  Here are some tips to help you get the look you want without breaking the bank:
Incorporating local, seasonal flowers and blooming branches can help keep you within your budget.  Displays of fresh cut garden blooms, or a single seasonal flower displayed in simple arrangements can be beautiful, easy, and inexpensive.
Think quality, not quantity.  Trying to stretch your budget and spread the flowers into many small arrangements can lessen the impact and effect of the flowers.
Prioritize your arrangements by keeping in mind that guests will spend more time at the reception site than at your ceremony.  Consider using your ceremony flowers at your reception as well.
Shop around for your florist.  Unless you have specific and exotic choices for your flowers, a large, and often more expensive, floral designer is not always necessary.
Beware of details that seem small, but can actually be the most costly due to labor costs or specificity of flower.  (For example, placing a single small bloom at each place setting.)
Substitute votive candles for some of the flowers for each centerpiece.  Elevate the candles and sprinkle flower petals around the lift, or use the petals in a vase of water surrounded by the candles.
If your heart is set on dramatic, tall, expensive centerpieces, save money by varying the height of the centerpieces from table to table.  You will still provide the beauty, as well as some added visual texture from the various heights.
Keeping your flowers simple provides a beautiful, sleek, sophisticated, and modern look.  Think single calla lilies or a few large flowers such as peonies or sunflowers displayed in clean and simple vases.
Be sure to check out a florist that does high volume business.  Perhaps your chosen flower is one that they order a lot of, thus lowering the price per stem.
Beware of creating your own centerpieces.  Often, the money saved, if any, is lost in the amount of extra hassle and stress taken to create the pieces.  A simple yet lovely potted plant is a good alternative.
Mix your favorite expensive flowers with filler greens or less expensive blooms.  Again, keep it simple and think quality over quantity.
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What You’ll Need
Attendants
Bride’s bouquet
Bridesmaid’s bouquets
Flower girl’s bouquets
Groom’s boutonniere
Groomsmen’s boutonnieres
Ring bearer’s boutonnieres
Mother of the bride’s corsage
Mother of the groom’s corsage
Father of the bride’s boutonniere
Father of the groom’s boutonniere
Grandmothers’ corsages
Grandfathers’ boutonnieres

Ceremony
Entryway arrangements
Altar arrangements
Pew or chair arrangements
Flower girl petals
Candles
Aisle runner
Memorial arrangements
Reception
Centerpieces
Bar, Buffet, Table arrangements
Bouquet Toss
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Questions to Ask Potential Florists
Does the florist have a design philosophy?  Be sure this fits with your style, theme, and personality.
  • Can you see photographs of their work or live floral arrangements?  
View their creations and compare them to what you are wanting.
  • How big is the shop, how many staff members, and who will work on your wedding?  Make sure you feel comfortable with their numbers and people.
Do they have recommendations for the flowers available and appropriate at the time of your wedding, and suggestions about how to creatively work with this selection?  This can keep prices lower and flowers fresher.
  • How can you maximize your options? Are there ways in which you can save money? Can your florist provide recommendations based on your budget?  Make sure you communicate your budget.  Bits and pieces really add up here.
  • Can the florist provide you with information about current wedding-flower trends in the Chicago area, such as popular flowers, colors, and styles of bouquets and decorative pieces?  This can help in your choice and planning.
Have they done weddings at your ceremony and reception sites before? Can they suggest appropriate arrangements for your venue, as well as how and where they should be placed?  Ask to see pictures of arrangements done at your site.
Will the florist deliver flowers for your wedding, spend time at the site, and set up?  Make sure you talk prices here as well.
  • How many weddings will the florist do on the same day/weekend as yours?  Make sure you feel comfortable with this answer.  Go with your gut.
  • Can the flowers be delivered to separate locations? (For example, centerpieces to the reception site, bouquets to the bride’s parents house?)  This can be very convenient.
  • Does the florist offer rental items, like vases, potted plants, candelabras, or cake topper?  This could be cost cutting versus buying new ones for only one day.
  • What is the substitution policy if your chosen flowers are not available on the day of your wedding?  Do you have any input on the substitutions?  Plan for the unexpected.
  • In what way does the florist ensure that your flowers will look fresh and beautiful on your wedding day?  Do they mist, wrap, and/or protect flowers for delivery?  Make sure you are comfortable with their answers.

Friday, March 15, 2013

Engagement Session Tips


0278_081212_Shin-ADesatThe choice to have professional engagement photographs is a personal one for each couple.  Couples who will have a formal engagement announcement printed, send save the date products, or want to practice getting comfortable in front of the camera often choose to work with their wedding photographer for an engagement session.  We have some tips to help you get ready for your engagement session.
What To Expect
Besides being an opportunity to get some great photos of you two, an engagement session let’s you practice loosening up so you can be yourself around your photographer. This is a great opportunity to share your creative vision, practice some fun poses, and get ready for close-ups on your big day!
Location
Choose a location that tells something about the two of you. First dates, proposals, favorite hang outs, all of these can make great spots for the engagement shoot. Pick a theme to your session, choose a season you love, or let your photographer guide you through the choices. The engagement session is all about the two of you.
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Choose simple patterns or solid colors that complement each other. If one of you will be wearing a pattern, we recommend the other wear a solid.  There is no need to match each other with the same shade shirt and jeans.  You should look like you are going to the same event - not like twins.
Medium to dark shades create a timeless look.
Soft shades enhance lighter backgrounds.
Long-sleeved shirts are best since short sleeves can be distracting and sleeveless tops can look too casual. If you want to wear a sleeveless shirt, bring a sweater or jacket for some of the images.
Select small accessories that do not detract, such as simple earrings, pins and necklaces.  Too emphasize your engagement ring, consider not wearing other rings for your session.  You’ll likely want shots of your sparkler so a manicure is a must!
Just like your wedding day attire, you’ll want a great fit for your engagement session clothing too.  Clothing that is too loose or too tight will capture your attention in the photographs.
Your shoes will show in some of your images, so it might be best to leave the old sneakers behind.

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Pinterest is full of ideas and props to use for your engagement session.  While it can be fun to pin a lot to your inspiration board, it can be more challenging to incorporate them all into your engagement session.  It’s a good idea to narrow down your choices and consider which ones will be easiest to haul around your shooting locations.
Chalkboards are a versatile prop for your session.  They can help to save the date or share a message.
Blankets and picnic baskets are perfect for a simple, romantic vibe.
Hearts, flowers and other fun items can add a playful feeling to your engagement images.
Complimentary (or competing) jerseys can share your love of your favorite team and work well if visiting stadium locations.
Cosmetic Tips
If your makeup artist for your wedding day offers a trial run of your wedding day look, consider doing so for your engagement session.
If you’ll be doing your own makeup, you may want to amp it up a bit.  Playing up your eyes is great for photos so going a little heavier with your shadow or using false eyelashes can be a great look.
Glitter products and mineral wear makeup may reflect light in an unnatural way so you might want to use them minimally or not at all.
Lip gloss is great until you’re outside on a windy day.  Choose your lip wear carefully.
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You’ll probably do some walking.  A pair of flip flops is perfect to wear between locations; you can slip on your heels before photography starts.
Bring a bottle of water.  It’s important to stay hydrated.
If you plan to include your pet, bring a dog handler with you.
Let your photographer know any props you will be bringing to the engagement session so they can plan accordingly.

What to do with the images
Engagement session images are perfect for framing in a signature matte, creating a guest sign in book, using for save the date card and magnets, or guest favors such as bookmarks.

Wednesday, March 13, 2013

Mother Son Dance Songs


1031_092912_SabolikLast week we shared some song choices for the father daughter dance at your wedding reception.  Today, we have some ideas for the mother son dance.
The song you choose for the mother son dance will determine the choreography of the dance, as well as the tone of the room.  There are many songs that are perfect expressions of the special relationship between a son and his mother.  Whether you want something sentimental or light hearted, there are many choices for this special wedding reception moment.  (For more on wedding reception music, click here.)
Here are a few to consider:
Aaron Neville - “Don't Know Much”
Alphaville - “Forever Young”
B.J. Thomas - “Mama”
Backstreet Boys - “The Perfect Fan”
Barry Manilow - “I Am Your Child”
Bette Midler - “Wind Beneath My Wings”
Boyz II Men - “A Song For Mama”
Celine Dion - “Because You Loved Me”
Elton John - “Blessed”
Gary Allan - “Tough Little Boys”
John Lennon - “Beautiful Boy”
Josh Groban - “You Raise Me Up”
Joshua Kadison - “Beautiful In My Eyes”
Louis Armstrong - “What A Wonderful World”
Mikki Viereck - “A Song For My Son”
Nat King Cole - “Unforgettable”
Natalie Cole - “A Smile Like Yours”
Paul Todd - “The First Lady in My Life”
Rascal Flatts - “My Wish”
Rod Stewart - “Have I Told You Lately?”
Steven Curtis Chapman - “Parent’s Prayer
Stevie Wonder - “You Are The Sunshine Of My Life”
Temptations - “Oh Mother of Mine”
Whitney Houston - “Greatest Love of All”
Carole King - “Child Of Mine”
James Taylor - “How Sweet It Is”
Lucero - “Mom”
Lynyrd Skynyrd - “Simple Man”
Sarah McLachlin - “Ordinary Miracle”
Good Charlotte - “Thank You Mom”
Ben E. King - “Stand By Me”
Steve Kirwan - “Sunrise, Sunset”
Dream Theater - “The Answer Lies Within”
Christian Barnes - “On This Day”
Molly Pasutti - “The Man You’ve Become”
Jackson 5 - “I’ll Be There”
Reba McEntire - “He Gets That From Me”
Scissor Sisters - “Take Your Mama Out”

Monday, March 11, 2013

Father Daughter Dance Songs


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Finding the right song for the father daughter dance at your wedding reception can be challenging.  You want a song that captures the essence of your relationship, has just the right sentiment and is loving, without being romantic.

The song you choose for the father daughter dance will determine the choreography of the dance, as well as the tone of the room.  If you and your father are hopeless sentimentals, a slow song would be perfect.  But if you enjoy a more humorous relationship, it is perfectly acceptable to pick a faster paced song.  The same holds true for your first dance.  (For more on wedding reception music, click here.)
Here are some songs you might want to try:
“Butterfly Kisses” by Bob Carlisle
“I Loved Her First” by Heartland
“Its For My Dad” by Nancy Sinatra
“Wldflowers” by Tom Petty
“Kind and Generous” by Natalie Merchant
“These Are The Days” by Van Morrison
“Daughter” by Loudon Wainwright
“My Little Girl” by Tim McGraw
“I Can’t Help Myself” by The Four Tops
“Isn’t She Lovely” by Stevie Wonder
“My Girl” by The Temptations
“Father and Daughter” by Paul Simon
“Daddy” by Beyonce
“Daddy’s Little Girl” by Michael Buble
“In My Life” by The Beatles
“Forever Young” by Rod Stewart
“Thank You” by Led Zepplin
“When You Need Me” by Bruce Springsteen
“Wonderful World” by Louis Armstrong
“My Darling” by Wilco
“Lullaby” by Dixie Chicks
“Forever” by Dropkick Murphy’s
“Gracie” by Ben Folds
“Just Fishin’” by Trace Adkins
“You Raise Me Up” by Josh Groban
“Somewhere Over The Rainbow” by Israel Kamakawiwo Ole’
“My Little Girl” by Steve Kirwan
“Because You Loved Me” by Celine Dion
“Lullaby” by Billy Joel
“Good Riddance” by Green Day