Thursday, September 27, 2012

Creating A Wedding Guest List


Most people don’t think about it, but the guest list for your wedding reception is the biggest contributor to cost.  Each person on your guest list represents a fee for food, drinks, decor, printing, postage, and the list goes on.  If your wedding budget requires you to cut your guest list, here are some ideas to help.
1.  Limit the list.  Each person on your guest list will cost you an average of $100.  Before you remove family members, you might want to discuss it with your parents or anyone contributing to the cost.  Explain that your wedding budget allows for a certain number of people.  If your family wants to extend additional invitations, perhaps they can cover the cost.

2.  Expect responses of regrets.  
On average, 30 percent of those invited will be unable to attend.  This will depend greatly on the date, location and how many guests would be required to travel.  While you may receive a few surprises on attendance, this gives you a starting point to work on your invitations.  As guests send in regrets, you can add names from your B list to the invitations.

3. Have A Consistent Kids Rule.  
One of the most contentious discussions about wedding guests lists often centers on invitations to children.  To avoid hurt feelings you might want to adopt a kids rule.  You can invite children, have an adult only reception or include immediate family.  If you are going to include children in your wedding reception, click here for ideas for kid friendly wedding receptions.


4. Prioritize Your Guests.  
Begin building your guest list by creating three columns; immediate family, close friends, and aquaintances.  You can then enter names into each column.  As you need to cut guests, you can begin to work your way through each list.  This does require determination not to stuff would of the columns!  As guests are removed, add their name to a B list so you can send an invitation as regrets arrive.
5. Plus Ones. You are not required to allow single friends to bring a date to your wedding reception.  It is your choice to decide where to draw the line.  To avoid offending someone, you may want to consider allowing guests in long term relationships to bring their significant other.  When making your seating arrangements, single guests will likely appreciate being placed at a table with other singles.

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

12 Tips For A Great Wedding Day



Pick your friends (brains).  Have recently married friends?  They can be a great wealth of information.  What vendors would they recommend?  What did they splurge or save on?  Looking back, would they do anything differently?  Find out what made their wedding day a success and apply it to your wedding day.

Build extra time for hair and makeup.  If you’ve had a trial run, you might think it will take the same amount of time on your wedding day.  In reality, your wedding day will have additional people around you, other details that need your attention and a timeline for the rest of the day.  Hair and makeup can take more time than you planned so do yourself a favor and build a buffer for this part of the day.

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day.  And this is never truer than on your wedding day.  It’s likely that you won’t get another chance to eat for many hours.  A high protein, low carb breakfast will help you power through without the carb crash.

Pack a wedding day kit.  Stopping at the drug store for bandaids, bobby pins and aspirin are probably not part of your wedding day timeline.  Pack a wedding day kit of all the essentials and a few what ifs.  For a suggested wedding day kit list, click here.

Keep formal portraits to a minimum.  Your wedding day is a celebration of your love with family and friends so you’ll want to get pictures of all those who enjoyed it with you.  But a  long list of ‘must have’ shots will quickly consume the time you have for capturing the amazing images you want as a couple too.  Decide what family groupings are the most important (get input from parents too!) and keep your “must haves” to this list.  To help pare down the list, ask yourself what you will do with the picture.  Will you it be in your album or framed in your house?  If not, do you still need it as part of your wedding day story.  For help building your list, click here.

Bustle, bustle and then bustle.  Wedding dress bustles can be quite complicated.  Make sure your bridesmaids have time to practice bustling the dress.  Take a bridesmaid (or two) with you to the final fitting so they have a chance to see the seamstress bustle the dress.  Then have them try it in front of her so they get a chance for instruction.  Ask that the bustle strips be color coded so that it’s easier to match on your wedding day.

Don’t worry about the weather – until you need to.  Right before the wedding you’ll feel the urge to check the 10 day forecast, especially if you are having an outdoor ceremony – but don’t.  Long range forecasts are more prediction than science.  Find out what time the venue requires you to make a decision to move your ceremony inside.  Talk with your photographer in advance about alternative locations in case of inclement weather.

Get credit where you can.  If you will use credit cards to track your wedding expenses, why not get something extra for it.  Many credit cards offer benefits like airline miles and points for rewards.  Just be careful not to overspend, you don’t want to start your marriage in debt.

Carry important phone numbers with you.  Carry an emergency contact sheet on your wedding day. You probably won’t carry your phone all day, so keeping the numbers on paper can be very helpful.  Make multiple copies and trust parents, coordinators and your venue with a copy.  Your venue can contact your baker or florist if they haven’t arrived by the setup time.

Get organized.  Wedding planning apps, three ring binders or a simple filing system will work to keep you organized.  Having a single place for contracts, contact info and ideas makes it easy to focus on wedding planning as time allows.  For a free Detroit wedding planner, click here.

Schedule setup.  Make sure that your contract for ceremony and reception venue clearly state when you will have access for setup.  Don’t assume that the rooms will be available just because you have reserved it for the afternoon or evening.  Many churches and venues also host showers and memorial services.

Let Go.  You’ve planned your wedding day for months, maybe even years, but you are now past the planning stage.  If something doesn’t go perfectly to plans, let go.  It’s likely that the only one that would notice is you, no one else knows each detail of the day.  You would rather your day be remembered by how happy you were than by having a fit over place cards.  The most important thing to remember is you’re marrying your best friend.  Isn’t that what it is about anyway?

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

6 Wedding Tasks Grooms Will Love


While the majority of wedding planning may be tasks the bride will enjoy more (flowers, dresses, jewelry and color schemes) there are a few that the groom is sure to enjoy.  Instead of worrying about every detail, ask the groom to handle these tasks:
Stocking the bar.  One sure way to get the groom involved in the wedding planning is to put him in charge of the bar menu.  Instead of just the standard liquors, the groom has options when it comes to microbrews, signature drinks and fine wines.  This can be a great way to work in your wedding theme as well, particularly if it focuses on a local theme.
The song list.  Many grooms have a definite opinion on what songs they want to hear at the wedding reception.  Choosing the playlist for the wedding reception is a great way for groom’s to get involved.  Work with your wedding DJ to plan the music for the wedding reception you both want.

Wedding party attire.  While brides spend countless hours dreaming of, looking for and trying on dresses, grooms used to go to the store and rent the standard black tux.  Today’s grooms have many more options in color, cut and style; some even choosing a great suit instead of rented threads.  The style options go beyond suiting to accessories too; statement socks, custom cuff links and themed undershirts have become quite popular.
Wedding reception fun.  When grooms take the lead in planning some wedding reception fun, you are sure to get a few surprises.  Shutterbooths, cigar rolling stations, and cocktail entertainers top wedding reception trends.

Wedding images.  While we see lots of inspiration images for brides, it’s likely that the groom has an idea of how he’d like to look in wedding day images too.  Discuss poses that he’s comfortable with (and not) with your wedding photographer and videographer as you form the plan for your wedding photos and wedding video.
Wedding day transportation.  If a wedding day is built on dreams, a Ferrari can shift it into overdrive.  When looking for wedding day transportation, a muscle car, Hummer limo or a high-performance sports car are at the top of a groom’s wish list.  Consider self driving the car of his dreams on your wedding day.
Absolute musts.  Even if the groom is comfortable with the bride doing most of the planning, it is important that he be involved with setting the budget, picking the venue, choosing a date and creating the guest list.  The choice between roses and peonies might not be that important to the groom, but the budget should be.  The way you plan your wedding together will begin teaching you how to work on future projects too.  Define some parameters that you both agree on and then let the planning begin!

Wednesday, September 12, 2012

Wedding Reception Centerpieces


Choosing the wedding reception centerpieces is a task couples both love and dread.  Inspiration can be found onPinterestwedding websites and every magazine, but how do you choose the right reception centerpieces?  Here are some tips to get you started:
 
Be consistent.  If your wedding day has been built around a particular wedding theme or color scheme, choose a centerpiece that is consistent with that design.
 
Consider variety.  There is no rule that says you must have the same centerpiece at each table, but you do want them to coordinate. Feel free to mix centerpieces of varying heights.
 
Be budget conscious.  The cost of centerpieces can fluctuate wildly.  Blooms that are grown locally or in season are always more budget friendly than imported flowers.  If you have an inspiration piece, ask your florist what they would recommend to keep the feel, but reduce the cost.
Fit the feel.  If you are having a rustic wedding, mason jars of wild blooms are perfect for your reception centerpieces.  A more formal event might dictate the use of roses, crystals or larger pieces.

Be mindful of height.  Guests will be able to converse better when they can see those on the other side of the table.  Shorter centerpieces or elevated arrangements work best for conversational flow.

Think beyond flowers.  Feathers, branches, fruit displays, hurricane lamps, candelabras and bird cages are all alternatives to flowers and very trendy.
 
Go vintage.  Using a variety of pitchers, depression glass or tea pots is perfect for a vintage wedding theme.  As a bonus, these can be picked up inexpensively at garage sales, thrift stores and flea markets.

Memory-scape.  Framed images from your childhood and dating period surrounded by votives provide great conversation starters as your guests reminisce about their history with you.
Think seasonally.  Allow the season of your wedding to guide you on your reception centerpiece choices.  Pumpkins and sunflowers are perfect for a fall wedding, twigs and berries for winter, soft pastels for spring and vibrant hues for summer.

Friday, September 7, 2012

Wedding Style Quiz


What’s your wedding day style?  Take this quiz to find out.
You prefer gatherings that are:
A. Formal with meaning.
B. Large and organized.
C. Casual and cozy.
D. Fun and unusual.
You think of your wedding as:
A. An occasion to celebrate with family and friends.
B. A social event for family, friends, and associates.
C. A quiet time to share with special friends and family.
D. An fun party you want all your friends to participate in.
What is most important to you:
A. Pomp and circumstance.
B. Substance and style.
C. A private family event.
D. Something unforgettable.
Your wedding budget is:
A. Sufficient, but restrained.
B. The sky is the limit!
C. Limited, but balanced.
D. Small, but you wanted to DIY anyway.
When guests see your wedding decor,  you want them to think:
A. Regal and refined.
B. Opulent and chic.
C. Rustic and elegant.
D. Fresh and hip.
Your dream wedding location is:
A. Old world castle.
B. Penthouse Loft.
C. Botanical Garden.
D. A modern art museum.
 When it comes to your wedding gown,  you say:
A. Ball Gown.
B. Modern mermaid.
C. Vintage.
D. Rocker chic.
While planning  your wedding, the priority is:
A. Honoring the true meaning of the celebration.
B. Creating the perfect look.
C. Sticking to my budget.
D. Having the time of my life.
Your dream wedding hair style is:
A. A classic twist
B. Perfectly styled
C. An upswept bun
D. Free flowing
You would describe your personality as:
A. Traditional.
B. Perfectionist.
C. Relaxed.
D. Eclectic.
When plans change, you usually:
A. Rethink my plan
B. Have a bridezilla moment!
C. Adapt
D. Relish the adventure
Your wedding gown priority is:
A. The color and style.
B. The exclusive look or name brand.
C. The price tag.
D. Something totally different
Count up your letter scores to see which style is most like you.
If you chose mostly A’s
Your Style: Traditional Elegance 
Your wedding day revolves around the significance of the marriage itself.  Your wedding day isn’t short on style, but focuses more on the joining of your families.  It’s important to you to prioritize your wedding reception budget because that’s where you will join family and friends.
If you chose mostly B’s
Your Style: Design Diva
Money doesn’t matter when it comes to your big event.  Your wedding day will be the social event that is talked about for years.  Wedding day photos that capture the ultimate are important to you.
If you chose mostly C’s
Your Style: Budget Savvy
While the budget is a priority, you don’t sacrifice beauty or style.  With some smart planning and budget friendly options, your wedding day will be your dream day without the big spending.
If you chose mostly D’s
Your Style: Fun and Funky
Your guests have never been to a wedding like yours.  A little bit vintage, a little bit rock n roll, your wedding day reflects your personality – and you wouldn’t have it any other way!

Wednesday, September 5, 2012

Wedding Reception Tips From Wedding DJs


Previously we’ve shared wedding day advice from photographers.  Today we are sharing wedding reception tips from DJs.

Cutting the wedding cake immediately after the Grand Entrance allows you to keep everyone’s attention for this special moment.  It also allows the serving staff to prepare the desert for timely table service.  If your cake will be positioned on the dance floor, this also allows it’s early removal so dances can begin on schedule.
Schedule toasts before dinner service begins.  This will keep the attention on the toasts and not have the distraction of dinner being served or worse – guests food getting cold through the wedding toasts.
Your guests want to spend the day with you.  Have as short of a break as possible between your ceremony and reception.  Make sure your guests, especially those out-of-towners, have something to do while you take pictures.  Having a First Look session is a great way to get the pictures you want and still entertain your guests.
Joining your cocktail hour does allow you to mingle with guests, but it’s easy to get caught in conversation and lose track of your timeline.  The same holds true for your bridal party.  Consider a separate area to grab refreshments after your Romantics portrait session prior to your Grand Entrance.
Verify the required departure time with your venue.  If they require DJs, photographers and other wedding vendors to leave the facility at a predetermined time, you may need to make adjustments to your wedding reception timeline.
You will likely finish dinner service before your guests; one of the benefits of being the bride and groom.  Use that extra time to visit guests so that you can start the dancing at the conclusion of dinner.
More couples are choosing to forego wedding traditions such as the bridal party dance, bouquet toss and garter removal.  If you choose to do them, consider doing them early in the timeline so that the dancing can continue without interruption.  You don’t want to stop a party when it is in full swing!
Arrive to your wedding reception venue at least 20 minutes before your Grand Entrance to get ready for your introductions.
Think of your wedding reception as having three distinct music programs; cocktail, dinner and dance party.  Work with your DJ to program your choices for the cocktail and dinner portions, but allow him the flexibility to read the crowd for the dancing.
If space allows, position a few high top tables near the dance floor for guests to set their drinks.  A broken glass will stop the flow of your party – and possible injure your guests.
Seat younger guest closer to the dance floor.  They are less likely to complain about volume levels and this will keep them close to the dance floor.
Most importantly, dance at your wedding!  Your guests want to be where you are; have them join you on the dance floor.